What affects people’s happiness most are things like quality of sleep, little ups and downs at work and relationships with our friends and family. In other words: it’s the little things that make us happy.
When you’re down or worried about something, people often say: “hey, try not to think about it; just put it out of your mind!”
This is very bad advice. Trying to suppress your thoughts is counter-productive. Like trying as hard as you can not to think about pink elephants or white bears. What people experience when they try to suppress their thoughts is an ironic rebound effect: the thought comes back stronger than before. Looking for distractions is a much better strategy.
One of the weirdest and most unsettling findings in psychology is the idea that we find it hard to hold two contradictory beliefs, so we unconsciously adjust one to make it fit with the other.
The gap between people with mental illness and the ‘sane’ is a lot smaller than we’d like to think.
Fantasies also fail to flag up the problems we’re likely to face on the way to our goals.
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